How are you today?

No, really, how are you really doing today?   If you’re like most people, you probably reflexively respond to this question without giving it much thought.  You probably have a canned response such as “fine”, “great”, “busy, but good!”   But when was the last time you thought about how you really are feeling?  When was the last time that you talked about how you are feeling? There are lots of good reasons why we don’t go beyond the standard “fine” response when asked how we are doing.  We may not feel like disclosing our worries to our neighbours, coworkers, families or others.  We may not get the sense that the person doing the asking is really interested in our emotional state.  It might just be easier, and it’s certainly quicker, to respond positively than to address real issues and concerns.  However, taking a moment to think about your emotional well being, acknowledging and talking about how you really are feeling may be more important than it may seem.  Receiving emotional support can prevent more minor stressors from becoming more severe.  It can help us feel more connected to others.  It can just feel good to be real.

So, how are you today?

Busy, busy, busy

A common problem that individuals find themselves struggling with is feeling too busy, too overwhelmed, being stretched too thin.  It seems that once you check one item off the to-do list, five additional items seem to appear out of nowhere!  Between the demands of home, work, school, family, friends, children, activities, it may appear that there is no time to meet your own needs (or actually figure out what your own needs are!)  This can lead to feelings of exhaustion, anxiety and stress. While there are absolutely things that must be done, sometimes we may have a tendency to pile on obligations for ourselves.  This can be due to unrealistic expectations (whether priorities are self-imposed, or from people depending on us), distracting ourselves from other issues or we may feel guilty if we are not busy.  However, taking downtime for ourselves is critical for our well-being.  It can help hold at bay the feeling of being burnt out, it allows accumulated stress to decrease and it can make us more content.  Relaxing and taking a break has its virtues.

Here is a challenge for you.  Take ten minutes today to do something just for you, something that you enjoy, something that makes you feel good.  How did that feel?